Married Life

Dolce Does…Halloween Weekend

If I have one takeaway from this Halloween weekend, it would be that Halloween should always fall on a Friday!

I spent Halloween day at work with two costume changes — I was a mouse (as in, Mean Girls, “I’m a mouse. DUH!”) and then this lovely cozy panda hat scarf with mittens (that’s actually what they are called) arrived in time for me to be a Panda for the second half of the work day.  What — like you don’t order your “costume” on Amazon at 3 pm Thursday, and expect it to be delivered to work Friday?  Yeah — I’m definitely not a procrastinator. 🙂


I then rushed home to the puppy and to set up for the trick or treaters.  I had not done any decorating prior, so I threw up some gravestones we made out of drywall two years ago, some pretty bad fake cobweb decorating in the front of the house, and plugged in my trusty lightning and thunder noise machine to let all the kiddies know that yes, our house does have candy, so please come take it so I dont eat it all.  We don’t get many trick or treaters for living in a residential neighborhood, so we still ended up with quite a bit of candy, but at least we’re the “cool” house that gives out handfuls of candy.  I’m convinced that if we keep doing that, the kids will come.  Kind of like Field of Dreams…if you give handfuls of candy out, they will come.  Something like that…

Anyway, I forgot to capture a picture of the terrible decorating job I did — so you’re welcome for that.  But I did get a bad lighting, iPhone picture of the non-traditional Mexican Meatball Soup I made.  It’s hard to cook Mexican food for your Mexican husband, but I love this recipe, so it’s become my new Halloween tradition.  It was delicious and spicy and perfect for the first cool fall weekend we’ve had in socal!


Mmmm cotija cheese and avo. YUM!

We finished Halloween up with finally watching the first Paranormal Activity.  Well, I watched through a blanket the whole time, but we had to get a scary movie in there for Halloween!

Saturday was spent lazing around with the pup and the cat.  I snapped this photo to enter Starbuck’s Red Cup Contest on Instagram.


After our caffeine fix, we ran some errands, and then got ready for a Halloween party at a friend’s house!  The Mr. and his buddies dressed as smurfs (that’s my husband in the middle as Brainy Smurf), while the wives and I dressed as Care Bears!  I was Grumpy Bear.



We enjoyed lots of cocktails, danced our booties off to the DJ they hired, and voted for the best male, female and couple costumes.  Sadly we weren’t winner.  Even though I tried to stuff the ballot box. Sssssh.

Oh!  And the girls kicked the guys butts in flip cup


(Again. Apologies for the crappy quality iPhone photos!)

Sunday I did not capture on camera — again — you’re welcome.  Ok that’s not true.  My dear husband took a picture of me passed out on the couch during football with the pup sleeping on the ground next to me.  But it’s not attractive, so I’ll spare you all.

That pretty much summed up our Sunday though.  We were up by 8-8:30ish (puppy slept in later than I thought with daylights ending!), watched some football, grubbed, slept, watched some more football, took Charger on a walk, and then read up on my guidebooks since we’re now only 2 weeks from our Eurasia trip!!! I don’t know how time has flown that fast, but the next 2 weeks will be crazy busy with work, life, and getting ready for a trip of the lifetime.

Overall a pretty sweet Halloween weekend!

Dolce Does… the One Year Wedding Anniversary

One Year Married.  I can hardly believe it!  We celebrated our first wedding anniversary yesterday and it was such a lovely day, with nothing major on the agenda (a first for us).  I spent a lot of time reminiscing on what we were doing at that time, just one year ago, and I probably drove the Mister crazy just a little bit, but that’s nothing new.

Our wedding day really truly was such an amazing, wonderful, lovely day, that truly went by in such a flash.  Everyone tells you how fast it goes — and it really, really does.

Good thing we have the most amazing wedding photos so I can re-live the day with just a few clicks on a computer, or flipping through our album.

Our first year was a pretty good year if I do say so myself.  We were also told the first year is the toughest, which I really didn’t find to be that way.  And, if it was in fact the toughest, then I’m looking forward to the many years ahead.  I know we’ll have our ups and downs and life can just be hard at times, but I really am lucky I found someone who makes those ups and downs just a little bit better.

We stuck to the traditional theme for gifts — Paper.  And, coincidentally, we both got each other two gifts: one heartfelt/sappy, and one fun.  I got him a photo book highlighting our first married year, and incorporated the lyrics to our first dance, the reading at our wedding, our vows, and the ring exchange.

vows I can hear her heart beat for a thousand

I also got him season tickets to the 2015 Padres Season!  So excited for those games next year.


He got our vows printed up on a canvas, and got me a Kindle Paper White since I’ve been doing a lot more reading lately.  Pretty good first anniversary!

We also spent the day lounging around — started off with some wedding cake and champagne (can’t go wrong there), enjoyed some local beer while watching the Chargers WIN (yay!) and ended with a delicious dinner at Richard Blais’ Juniper and Ivy.  Yum!

I’ll leave you now with some highlights from our first married year — like I said, it was a good one!  Can’t wait to see what’s in store for year numero dos!




Dolce Does…The Name Change

I officially began the Name Change process in February with visits to the Social Security office and DMV.  I was then motivated to change everything I could possibly think to change, while it was fresh in my mind.  Which — knowing myself — was a smart thing, because then I lost steam for a bit.

I finally made it into the bank this past weekend to change the last of my bank accounts/credit cards.  I think all I have left is passport.  I filled out the paperwork but now either need to find the pictures I took a short 6.5 months ago, or take new ones and send it in.  At least I won’t have to pay the fees since I got my passport in the last year.

The process really is a pain in the rear, and I’m still not used to the idea of my new name.  I wasn’t motivated to do it at first, until we checked into a hotel in Vegas in February, and trying to explain we’re married, but have different names, when getting the keys to the room.  Now, I know a lot of women choose not to change their name, but knowing I was going to get to it eventually made me feel like I was in limbo.  I never knew what name to give, especially when signing up for new things knowing that my name would be changing soon enough.

Plus, I thought I was going to need my passport updated a lot sooner than initially planned — I’ll save that topic for a post another day — so I finally was motivated to move forward.  It is still weird not knowing what name I’m listed under for smaller things, like rewards programs, my Nordstrom debit card, and other less important accounts.  And, as I mentioned, I don’t know when I’ll get used to the name name.  But, I have ease of knowing all the important documents are taken care of.

Growing up I always automatically assumed I would take my future husband’s last name, but now that I’m actually married, and actually had to go through the process it’s different from how I imagined — perhaps because my name was my identity for my entire life until now.  It feels like I’m playing pretend, and I wonder when it will become natural.

Countdown continues…

HOLY CRAP guys.  Today marks 6 months til the big day.  Time is starting to fly….

I’ve been neglecting this poor blog.  Here’s a quick recap of what I’ve been up to!

*I’ve been working diligently on getting our wedding website up and running.
*Picked out our save the dates
*Took our engagement photos last week
*Mid-hunt for bridesmaid dresses

I’m impatiently waiting for our engagement photos back!  I can’t wait.  Here’s a personal shot of us on our way to our second location…Someone was sick of smiling for the camera!


Once we get our photos back (hopefully in the next few days) I’ll be ready to order and send out our Save the Dates!

In the meantime, we found some really cute dresses that looked great on my Maid and Matron of Honor!  I’m hoping the other girls can go try our top choices on and we can make a decision soon.  It’s going to be tough to pick because we’ve got some really cute options so far!

In addition to making a decision on a florist, I’m now including a day-of coordinator to the vendor hunt.  I wasn’t going to hire someone initially, but I’m starting a new job next week and I think it’ll just be too much on my plate.  Plus, some additional extenuating factors popped up this week so I think it’s for the best.

I think that’s it for now!  I’ll be back to post about our engagement photos and save the dates once I get the pics back!


Dolce Does..another check off the list!

This probably should’ve been one of the first vendors I booked given our “shorter” engagement and popular date in our city…but, we FINALLY decided on our DJ!  I am so, so excited.  The DJ we are selecting was on the higher price range of our options, but I just loved him during our meeting, he has a great reputation and came highly recommended, and — bonus! — he will provide the much-needed uplighting for our venue!

It’s amazing how great it feels to get one more item off the check list — especially when it’s an important one!  Now the number one item is to figure out our Officiant situation, because we can’t have a wedding without one.

A few weeks ago D and I interviewed a Pastor.  While our primary goal was to have someone we know get ordained and officiate, we ran into a few issues there, so I started the search for a professional. The Pastor was great and D really liked him, so I’m glad we have that option.

Yay to booking vendors!

Dolce Does..Wedding Dress Shopping!

Most of our weekends lately have been devoted to wedding related events.  Venue hunting, vendor meetings, bridal shows (one every weekend it seems!), the list goes on and on.  This weekend’s to-do list didn’t obligate the Mr. luckily, as he caught a nasty cold.

Saturday morning I left him sick and miserable to join my mom, her best friends, my maid and matron of honor and a bridesmaid to begin the hunt for my dress!  I made an appointment at a shop closer to my mom’s house and it happened to be the same shop my Matron and Bridesmaid found their dresses when they got married.

I wasn’t exactly nervous, but more unsure of how I was feeling about the process.  I’m not at my happy weight, so I wasn’t sure if I would be uncomfortable in a bunch of sample size white dresses, but I tried to keep happy thoughts.  I also had no idea what style would work on my body type, and was nervous that having 5 people there would be too many voices.  I even contemplated going on my own during the week to get a feel for a style, but I was afraid I’d find “the” dress making the Saturday appt moot.  So, I stuck to this appointment.

I also had a game plan that if I didn’t find the dress I would make another appointment for another day, with just my mom or my Matron.  This was more for the show and experience of it, and to have a little fun and get some good input.

Well, it turns out, a second appointment is completely unnecessary because by some miracle, I found my dress!  It was the 6th dress I tried on, and was more to see if I liked the style.  But it’s totally the one.  As I was stepping into it, the salesperson asked about the next dress I was going to try on and I didn’t even need to see it.

It’s the typical story of this dress not being anything that I imagined at first. I kept gravitating toward one style that just wasn’t flattering on me, so it was time to switch it up.  And soon enough, I found the perfect one!

My entire entourage liked it the best and I didn’t want to take the dress off!  It couldn’t be more perfect and I can’t wait to wear it!  7 months to go until I get to!

I’m so glad it was such a quick and easy process, and now I can move forward with the attire for the rest of the bridal party!  Things are coming together!!!!

Can’t wait for 10/12/13 🙂

Bridesmaid Dresses!

I’m still holding off on the bridesmaid dress hunt until after I get my dress, but I love browsing the internet for inspiration.

Lately I’ve been really into the Alfred Sung Dupioni dresses but today I’m loving these Lela Rose by Dessy Group dresses.  Because I have 8 girls, I’m considering different necklines.  Here are my favorites:


I am also totally loving these two necklines.


The last dress with the capsleeves kind of reminds me of Serena Van der Woodsen.

I’m definitely gravitating towards a more sleek floor-length look. And I still would love to go with gray dresses, but in this line I prefer black!

All dress images from

Dolce Does..Dream Wedding


I found this Some E-card the other day on Pinterest and about died.  How true is that in my case?

Speaking of Pinterest & Dream Weddings, I entered a contest sponsored by My Gatsby, a stationary website.  The prize is $200 towards your wedding stationary and all you had to do to enter was build a board on Pinterest showcasing your “Dream Wedding” vision.  Uhh, haven’t I already been doing that since I joined Pinterest two years ago?  Hello – count me in!

So, yesterday, with my newfound wedding vision, I gathered all of my favorite pins covering stationary, hair, jewelry, attire, flowers, centerpieces and lighting on this pin board.  I can only imagine how many amazing boards were entered into the contest but I really want to win!

Dolce Does..Ombre!


Ombre is all the rage these days from hair to nails to even wedding flowers!  Over the past few months, it has seemed like every time I try to go more modern, I just end up more traditional.  So, how do I marry (no pun intended) traditional with some modern flair?

As I mentioned before, I’m envisioning lots of candles for the romantic flair, black and white for a classic feel, and feathers and bling to add a little glam.  When it came to flowers, I imagined a little bit tradition meets classic meets romance.  I also knew that while I was all over the map deciding on colors and theme, once I sat down with a florist it would help me nail down my vision a little more.

I met with a florist yesterday and that is exactly what happened.  It was hard because I received confirmation that my top two wedding flower wants are out of season in October.  I mean, look how gorgeous these peonies are, and the black and white anemones couldn’t be more perfect!!!


But, going in I knew peonies were a spring flower, and according to my research anemones come into season in November.  I wasn’t sure if that was close enough, but sadly, it’s not.

Although I can’t get my dream wedding flowers (silly October and all your oranges) the meeting made me really excited for all the decor.  I’ve settled on the black and white with gray and accents of blush and coral.  I’m really wanting to stay away from BLACK and PINK everywhere, but I think I can achieve that if I stick to a little pink only in the flowers and lighting.

So far we discussed lots of roses, maybe some carnations to make that tight ball look for centerpieces, some stephanotis, and gray beads and leaves!  I’m really excited for the gray.  And, I want to incorporate black and white stripes to make it a little younger.  Can’t forget the feathers – I’m definitely having some feathers in my bouquet!

Now, I didn’t lead in with the ombre for no reason.  One idea that came to me during the consultation that has me really, really excited, is incorporating some ombre in the lower centerpieces!  White, blush and coral ombre surrounded by candles on black linens with a black and white striped runner?  I am loving it!

I have a few more florists I want to meet with, but I’m glad I booked this consultation early because it certainly helped me figure out my overall decor theme!

I’ll leave you with a few floral inspiration photos I’m really loving right now!